This article is about how to go about getting the first date once you have managed to open and get a response from a women. In an ideal world you would match someone online, or simply message them saying “meet at mine at 7pm Saturday” and that’s it. For a women to agree to go on a date with you she must: Bottom line, try not to come across as weird or creepy by begging, pleading, being too invested or acting nice just to get her to agree to go out with you. You can do that other stuff when you start dating her.The primary aim of chatting to a women online is to meet her in real life. Once you feel you have messaged back and forth enough to get her feeling attracted and safe, it’s time to move fast and get something in the diary. Here’s why: As a rule, aim to arrange a date within 24 hours of her initial response to your first message, ideally within the first session of back and forth messaging.Back in 2007 I had my first experience of online dating.I signed up to Match, Plenty Of Fish and e Harmony. I’m not the best looking guy, but I can scrub up, my profile had a couple of nice photos, highlighted my good qualities, and was free from spelling mistakes. Eventually I realised that online dating is heavily skewed towards women.Here is my question: Are men ok with women sending introductory emails to them? In some ways, I see a email hello similar to a come-hither look at a bar, etc.but in other ways it seems very aggressive and therefore a turnoff to most men. Dear Jane, Your question brings up two of the most common mistakes that women make in online dating: 1) Waiting for Men to Write to You First 2) Telling Him What You Like About His Profile First things first: Men LOVE it when women write to them. If you have an attractive photo, interesting essay, and you’re in his target demographic, why WOULDN’T he be excited to hear from you?When you read my strategy below you’ll see what I mean. I don’t pay too much attention to this, but here are some things to consider: In other words, there is no ideal time to message. That means you don’t care if you are rejected (and as I said before, you will get rejected, many, many times). It’s time to convert your online chat to a first date.Learn the patterns of each girl you are talking to and make decisions accordingly. Your mind will tell you that you are more likely to be rejected and should prolong the messaging phase to avoid the pain. You shouldn’t care if you get rejected because you are an Alpha male and you know you have an abundance of women in your life (even if this isn’t true yet, you must believe it will happen). After about 10-20 back and forth messages (keeping them short, 1-2 sentences each) you are going to move her from the website or app to Whats App.
Are there instances in which both people in a match are waiting for the other to communicate?Already, Bumble has established itself as an unworkable venue for guys accustomed to carpet-bombing women with “Hey baby” and “Nice (body part)” messages.That’s because Wolfe — a co-founder of Tinder, a notorious haven for such annoyances — has insisted that on Bumble, only women can initiate male-female conversations.Bumble, which also uses Tinder’s swipe feature to browse profiles, is rather “a means to emulate real life,” in which people can’t hide behind user names to spam or harass others, Wolfe says.Likewise, the women-first messaging rule seeks to address a backward social convention that Wolfe believes has only gotten worse with the advent of online dating and texting.